I don’t believe in destiny. Or that’s actually a half truth – I believe there’s something. Something we can’t control that connects the dots and in the end ensures life builds up to a meaningful pattern. At moments certain things just feel right (or wrong), and those are moments when I’d refer to “meant to be”. When it feels right it’s easy… it’s a flow and you somehow get enlightened while you are made aware of occasions from the past – good or bad – that suddenly adds up to something meaningful and the next steps in your life become very obvious.

At one of these moments in my life I got introduced to the word Synchronicity: “A term coined by Carl Jung to denote meaningful coincidence. Events bound by synchronicity are connected by similarity, by meaning, by resonance, rather than by causality. Synchronicity is an acausal connecting principle. Since it goes beyond causation, it goes beyond time and space, and is not limited by such relations.”

It all makes sense, it all connects. Do I understand it? Not at all… but I accept it and I am grateful to the fact that moments of synchronicity occur. I also owe thanks to a person who appeared in my life when I needed it the most.

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” C. G. Jung

I’m not spending more time of my life analyzing why certain things happened. Instead I’ll enjoy the moments that are brought to me. Make sure I pass on my happiness to people surrounding me. And I’ll never question the meaning of life – because if I do I’ll someday be dying without having lived.

“The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it Intuition or what you will, the solution comes to you and you don’t know how or why.” Albert Einstein

Why do people end up in situations like this? Why do we feel the need to adjust ourselves for others? To some extent and in many situations it’s necessary. It’s a part of being able to read situations, a part of being socially intelligent and compromise with colleagues, friends, family and people around you. And those situations are normal in everyday life.

But…When the demands from people close to you gets too high, when other people tell you what to do or not to do. When they try to change you in certain ways and to make you adjust to what they think should be you. THAT is when it all becomes dangerous. This is when you need to pay attention to your feelings, when you need to look deep within to not loose track of who you really are, this is the moment you should turn things around…and if you don’t this is the moment when it all can go in the wrong direction.

So what if you kept going, what if you tried to adjust, to change? Over time it doesn’t work, a human being never became happy by doing things he/she didn’t believe in to try to please someone else. A person that has been unhappy over a long period of time can get not only mental illness (depression etc.) – but the body knows when enough is enough, it’s your temple, your protection. It gives you warning signs along the way, and you had better listen. Otherwise those warnings will get stronger, and in the end you might end up in a situation you can’t manage without help.

When you come to the insight that something is wrong (let’s hope you do…) it’s at this moment you have to make important decisions in your life – that may affect your future to a great extent. Take a minute to reflect, am I happy? Is this how I want to feel every morning when I wake up for the rest of my life? If you’re unhappy in the current situation today – why would it be different tomorrow? What can YOU do to change it?

Steve Jobs (RIP) said some wise words during his Stanford speech 2005:
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.“

Yes – everything else is secondary! I wish I understood that along the way, but I had to get to this learning point, I had to realize that I love the way I am – and no one can change me to someone I’m not. If you ever feel trapped, if you ever feel you’re doing something you don’t want to do  just to try to please others…stop…think and act… The most important person in YOUR life is YOU.

I choose 2… and this time I intend to be serious about it.

I’ll sum up by adding a favorite of the week this time. There is a store at Sankt Eriksgatan that I pass by once in a while.

Clean, lots of exciting things and extremely well organized in the shelves. The people working there are also very nice.

My absolute favorite is doing legs Monday morning. Started this week with squats and lunges.

This video shows it standing.

How could I forget this excersise? It deserves to be elected as the favorite of the day.

I mostly do both arms at the same time but sometimes it’s nice doing one arm at the time, felt right on spot for my delts today.

On the picture: Natalie Benson IFBB Figure Pro, nice delts!

Coming back home eating the regular ones is now boring…

Wanted the chocolate flavor but the store close to the hotel only had vanilla, no reason to cry though. Can ice cream make one happier? I do believe so If I have time before I leave tomorrow I’ll make sure to have another one before I go back to Sweden.

This is the place: